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We are here to work, not to whore

Some Kenyans have a nauseating tendency to want to hit on people they meet at all sorts of places. Especially at public places.

People like to vibe attendants at restaurants, the groceries man, the Uber driver, work colleagues and even the female bus conductor.

Leads you to wonder: what does it take to set off a rupture in some people’s loins?

Why would anyone be attracted to a restaurant attendant they just met? What’s so romantic about having someone serve you a shake? Why would you even care that she has luscious calves and the voice of a god?

It’s also not your business that the hardened tips of your waitress’s erect nipples press against her shirt as she serves you.

Your relationship with them ought to be strictly professional. Only that. The least you can do is to put a leash on your furious juices.

She may be a looker of a bartender, but that’s her job. She’s there to earn a buck. Not to bonk every customer who walks through the club’s door.

Why some men imagine that women working in public places are there to whore themselves is beyond anyone’s ken. They attempt to touch them, often inappropriately, kiss them by force or force themselves into them.

SHAMELESSNESS

Yet, these are family women. Mothers. Wives. Sisters.

There is no other way to think of such lowlifes than the fact that they remained homo habilis when the rest of humanity evolved.

I have seen men hit on M-Pesa attendants. The nerve. The shamelessness. If this woman accepted to lay with every man who came to her shop, wouldn’t hers be a whorehouse?

It also happens in the most unlikely places: offices. Some people just cannot restrain the urge between their legs. They want to be with every skirt that fleets near them. To be with everything in pants.

For them, office colleagues, clients and everyone in their circle is ready for takes. The tea lady. The cleaner. The messenger. It doesn’t matter whether or not she/he wants him/her. A relationship for then should end in one way: romance.

If you ever find yourself attracted sexually to all the people you interact with daily, you have a serious personality problem. If you always think of getting between their thighs, even before you have known people well, your problem is even bigger.

What people fail to acknowledge is how being involved romantically with someone destroys powerful relationships, ruins opportunities.

You may pretend to conduct affairs professionally after your electric romp, but in reality, the dark cloud of your “stint” together will always hang ominously above you.

HOMEWRECKER

The best thing to do is to stand strong even when the temptation to be with them is throbbing.

Even if he is an elegant whip of a man, leave him alone. Chances are, he has a family. And the last thing you want to do is drive a wedge between him and his dear wife, and kids. Unless, of course, you are a homewrecker.

Your teammate may be the prettiest thing that has ever crushed into your orbit, but the moment you lay a finger on her, everything suddenly changes.

How that happens, I’m in no position to tell. Except it’s something far from pleasant.

Imagine being the reason why an erstwhile responsible family man or woman no longer provides for their family. Put yourself in their spouse’s shoes. Disgusting?

And then there’s dignity. You may be a swindler or any such despicable thing. But not honouring the dignity of a fellow human being is perhaps the worst crime you can commit.

Manipulating someone’s wobbly circumstances to lure them into your trap is pure evil. And blackmail. A disregard to their dignity.

Stay out of harm’s way. Just get the service and be in your way. Respect your colleagues. By honouring their dignity, you honour your too. This way, you build genuine, strong and lasting relationships.

Bonne chance!